Home and Holding On

A story based on true events…

street


I like things to be cushy, I admit it. I want to eat well and then take a nap on a mountain of pillows.

Maybe it seems ridiculous or indulgent, but I spent enough time having to sleep on the streets. Now I’d like good neck support, thank you very much.

poolside lounge chairs - with cushions to support your neck

The people I’m close to now know practically nothing about my life before, and, even if there weren’t a language barrier, I think I’d prefer it that way.

I don’t like to dwell on my past. In some ways, though, it’s always with me, like a ghost making me startle when a neighbor’s door closes. Or shudder when the sprinklers turn on and I remember being cold and wet.

wet rainy parking lot

Apparently, having the bad luck to end up homeless is a crime, because I was turned in and locked up. Never formally charged, never in front of a jury, with no idea how long I’d be behind bars.

metal gates and concrete

I did my best to keep to myself, relishing any time I could get outdoors in the sunlight.

After about 2 weeks, this couple came to bail me out. I wasn’t sure why they were doing it. I also wasn’t about to argue.

sunset between buildings

They took me in. Their place was cozy, with good food and lots of pillows.

At first, I was so afraid of doing something wrong and getting kicked back out on the streets that I didn’t want to let either of them out of my sight.

Orange pennants

I’ve relaxed a bit since then but still try to keep an eye on them.

They don’t make it easy.

They’re both the sweet, naive, smile-at-strangers types, and I am constantly trying to warn them to be more cautious.

Seattle paste-up art

One time, a woman I had never seen before in my life just showed up with a suitcase. They acted like she was an old friend, and she stayed with us for days. Finally, what I had been trying to tell them must have registered, because the newcomer packed her suitcase back up and left.

Phoenix street at night

I seriously don’t know where they’d be without me looking out for them, watching the house, making sure they get out and exercise, keeping the kitchen floor clean, and reminding them to go to bed at a reasonable hour.

All in all, we’re good for each other. We’ve become family.

3 trees silhouetted by the sunset

It’s been a year, and I’m less haunted now. I no longer jump every time the blinds go up or someone sneezes.

I’ve got plenty of cushy spots throughout the house to nap. While I was as thin as a desert coyote when I met them, I’m back up to a healthier weight just from eating regular meals and not being on the run.

patio with chairs and plants

After you’ve lost everything once, you become unapologetic about reveling in what you enjoy. And you learn to fiercely protect those you love.

So I look out for these two crazy humans like it’s my job.

Really, someone has to – even if that someone happens to weigh 14 pounds and have a record with the county, oversized ears and tiny paws.

 

Quijote Paws



Quijote coyote

The story behind the story…

This past Sunday marks one year since we adopted Quijote, whose perspective I channeled to write this. He had been at the county shelter almost two weeks, after being brought in by a kind soul who we may never meet but are very grateful to.

MCACC east shelter

Before that, there are a lot of mysteries. He must have lived with people before, because he was already house trained and already neutered. We have no idea why he ended up as a stray or how long he was out there running around on the “mean” streets of East Mesa.

Dog that looks like a fox

Our first glimpses of Quijote through the fence of his kennel were of him hanging out in the back, sunny part  like he just didn’t want to deal with all the noise and drama inside.

He was really skinny. Since then, he’s gained about 3 pounds, which doesn’t sound like much – but that’s over 25% of his original body weight!

We also joke about whether he thinks he’s taking us to the park to make sure we get our exercise instead of the other way around. He wouldn’t be totally wrong. I’m actually in better shape than when we first adopted Quijote, both physically and mentally. That little wagging tail is the best motivator to get out of the house and move around a bit.

And, yeah, he really does like curling up on pillows and blankets. He’ll arrange them so he has the optimal spot to rest his chin on – you know, neck support.

Finally, as happy as Phillip and I were to have a good friend stay with us for a few days while she was in town, Quijote was not on board!

 

He barked at her almost the entire time. It’s one of the most ridiculous examples of him trying to protect us when we least need protecting. Oh well. His little heart is in the right place.

Poetry in Planters

Nearly 1000 people from 5 countries waxed poetic about life in Tucson, Arizona, when the city put out a call for haiku submissions in its first annual Old Pueblo Poems literary competition.

Collage of poetry signs

Tucson’s poet laureate, TC Tolbert, selected 20 winning entries.

You can find the poems on signs nestled among desert plants along Congress Street and Stone Avenue in Downtown Tucson.

Building in Downtown Tucson with a poetry planter in front of it

Phillip and I spotted a few – which you can see photos of below – while we were headed to The Screening Room for the Arizona International Film Festival (AZIFF).

Downtown Tucson street including The Screening Room

Several of the selections for this year’s AZIFF featured poetry in some form, and there were poetry readings almost daily. So having haiku sprinkled down the street in front of the Screening Room was a perfect complement.

 


‪Waiting for the buzz / Of late-summer cicadas / Yellow flowers fall. (by Alanna Mejia)

‪Waiting for the buzz
Of late-summer cicadas
Yellow flowers fall.
Alanna Mejia

 

Haiku: El Presidio Layers of time not of past Sun warmed adobe – Philip Brown

El Presidio
Layers of time not of past
Sun warmed adobe
–Philip Dean Brown

 

Haiku on sign: late night dance party / confetti spills down Congress / monsoon washes clean (by Lisa Periale Martin)

late night dance party
confetti spills down Congress
monsoon washes clean
Lisa Periale Martin

Haiku: Now the day goes still / Letting Tucson catch its breath / While the sky burns red (by Judi Molina)

Now the day goes still
Letting Tucson catch its breath
While the sky burns red
–Judi Molina

 


Old Pueblo Poems map in Downtown Tucson

– More info on Old Pueblo Poems –

  • On display during daylight hours, now through June 1.
  • Take the 1/2-mile “haiku hike” to see them all.
  • The Old Pueblo Poems project is a collaboration of the Downtown Tucson Partnership and U of A Poetry Center.

Updates on 2019 Arizona International Film Festival

vintage film equipment at the Screening Room

The 2019 Arizona International Film Festival (AZIFF) is still going on! You have until Sunday to get to Tucson and check it out!

AZIFF Screening Room marquee

We were there for the first week of AZIFF and are back home now. You’ll be able to read about our trip and films we saw soon!

Indie

In the meantime, I’ve been posting updates on Instagram Stories and Twitter. You can also read short reviews of last year’s documentaries and narrative films I wrote as a Guest Columnist over at The Two Gay Geeks, a fun site (and podcast) that covers a wide range of entertainment topics and highlights work by independent creators.

AZIFF marquee

So have you watched  anything interesting  recently?

– More AZIFF 2019 Info –

  • Dates: April 10-21
  • Location: Downtown Tucson. All screenings are at The Screening Room, except for one at Loft Cinema. There are also a few parties, etc. in nearby venues like Hotel Congress.
  • Schedule
  • Hotels: Lots of Tucson hotels support the festival and give discounts if you mention you’re attending.

Hotel Congress outside


We were guests of Arizona International Film Festival. 

“The Wedding Guest” Invites You To Get Lost

Being a good wedding guest is pretty simple: make sure to RSVP, bring a gift, and definitely don’t kidnap the bride.

Samira - The Wedding Guest film
Radhika Apte as “Samira” in Michael Winterbottom’s The Wedding Guest. Courtesy of IFC Films. An IFC Films Release.

 

In Michael Winterbottom’s new film, The Wedding Guest, the titular character, Jay, does not follow any of that etiquette.

Dev Patel as “Jay” in The Wedding Guest
Dev Patel as “Jay” in Michael Winterbottom’s The Wedding Guest. Courtesy of IFC Films. An IFC Films Release.

Program

Dev Patel as “Jay” shows up in Pakistan uninvited, his duffel packed with multiple passports, a gun, and really nothing suitable to wear to a wedding. He’s looking for bride-to-be Samira, because has a job to do – and it’s not as a DJ or caterer.

Radhika Apte as "Samira" in The Wedding Guest

Although Samira, who is played brilliantly by Radhika Apte, does have misgivings about her impending nuptials, she’s (understandably) not psyched about the alternative of waking up with said gun to her head.

Samira and Jay - The Wedding Guest film

We travel with them from city to city, as they they cross the border into India, change identities, hide in plain sight, and try to determine how much each can trust the other.

Jay - The Wedding Guest film

Jay is meticulous about covering his tracks and wiping his fingerprints. And, yet, when a key contact fails to appear at their rendezvous point, he realizes he’s made a mistake that puts everything at risk.

 

Jay and Samira

Photography

Most of the film was shot on location in India, with the production following roughly the same route as the characters.

The Wedding Guest - road in Pakistan

They were even granted permission to film at the India-Pakistan border crossing. It was rare to get a permit then, but seems impossible now — just a year later — as tensions have escalated between the two countries.

Jay and his duffel bag - The Wedding Guest film

Instead of sets with extras, director Michael Winterbottom used actual city streets, alleys, and markets as backdrops, along with any people who happened to be in the shot (and may not have even realized they were in a movie). Often this guerrilla-style filming would continue for eight hours straight to capture the real-world setting.

 

Jay and Samira in the city - The Wedding Guest

Guest List

For as much time as we spend with the film’s principal characters, we barely get to know them.

Dev Patel as Jay in The Wedding Guest film

Jay is particularly opaque, maintaining his stoic exterior and leaving us to wonder about his true motivations and background.

We get a bit more of a glimpse into Samira, her feelings, where she’s from, who she loves, and what’s important to her.

Samira in the desert - The Wedding Guest

She’s been taken from one situation she didn’t want to be in and put into another one. Over the course of the film, she finds her footing and gradually begins to take back control over her life. I would have loved to see more from her point of view.

The Wedding Guest film

Although the pacing is more art film than thriller, The Wedding Guest is a good watch, delivering a steady stream of suspense and some surprising plot twists.

 


The Wedding Guest will show up in theaters in New York and Los Angeles March 1 with a wider release March 8.

Film preview and photos courtesy of IFC Films. Michael Winterbottom’s The Wedding Guest is an IFC Films Release.

 

The Wedding Guest film release dates

January 2019 in Photos

I’m changing up My Photo of the Month series to be more of a recap of the last month, instead of focusing on just one Instagram photo.

Quijote in a blanket

1. Getting out of the Holiday Blanket

Getting back into a regular routine at the beginning of January feels like emerging from a holiday cocoon.  Or, as Quijote illustrated, peeking out from the snuggly blanket my mom made me (us?) for Christmas.

 

cauliflower tacos at the coronado pix

2. Museum Date Day

Phillip and I had a couples’ counseling appointment (we go periodically — I recommend it!) and decided to make an afternoon of it.

Feathered Serpent head sculpture from Teotihuacan

We dropped Quijote off at doggie daycare, went to therapy, got lunch at The Coronado, and then went to the Phoenix Art Museum, so we could see the Teotihuacan exhibition before it closed.

Scandinavian Pain by Ragnar Kjartansson

Taller de Gráfica Popular

Las Plumas del amor by Pedro Meyer

We also took at quick look at a few other exhibits while we were there, including Scandinavian Pain + Other Myths, José Guadalupe Posada and the Taller de Gráfica Popular, and Mexican Photographers, Mexican Views.

 

sculpture by Ugo Rondinone

Also, I did a double take on the way to the elevators when I spotted a particular neon color combination that I thought I recognized from the Seven Magic Mountains installation we saw in Nevada. I don’t even know what exhibit it was part of, but, yep, it was a single Ugo Rondinone sculpture — in travel size, I guess!

 

Quijote wants snacks!

3. Park Snacks

We’ve been trying to be more consistent in Quijote’s training, practicing things like coming when he’s called at the park. One day, I thought I’d give him a break since I didn’t have his usual reward treats with me, and he seemed (hilariously) annoyed.

The Coronado PHX

How is your 2019 starting out?


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